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yurki-posts · 7 months ago

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Do you have any oc?? :0

(Not talking 'bout ur persona, im asking like-- an oc or sssstory w ocsss?? lmao---) 👉👈💐

YEESSSSSS I DO!!!!! I have many, many ocs buuuut I lost the pictures of most of them and they don't have a real story yet- so imma just share some of them who I have pictures for and also a little of lore! (please god im begging for the guys in the discord server not to find this or im fucking dead)

Ocs under the cut! (It's quite long and messy so be prepared for lore dump in the second half because it's my personal favorite)

First we have my main oc and the first one I created all by myself! (which means without external help like a character maker or dress up game); Vinn!

(credits of the art to my irl bestie I luv ya!!!)

As you can see, they're a colorful ball. His desing is obviously based on Polandball/Countryballs, where the countries are balls with white eyes. Originally they were going to be their own countryball but I decided to use him as a persona for many years until Yurki came in ;)

Don't let their colors and cuteness foul you, they were banished to hell after burning down uncountable villages and forests. He was obsessed with fire in such a sick way, he was often called an arsonist (rightfully so) by the passersby.

Once in Hell, they lost most of their already damaged mind. They set Hell itself on fire and flames, and before he could reach the last corner of it, he was captured and kicked out of hell, and found himself in a new planet ready to be set on fire with their flamethrower, although it would bring many surprises he couldn't have ever imagined.

That's pretty much a summary of their lore. He loves fire (what a surprise!) and they are best friends with the element of fire of that universe. They don't have many abilities that aren't just advantages of being a ball, but he can breathe fire if that's something. Their story actually continues but it's all written in spanish so I doubt it's even worth to link it here lol.

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And now...We have many here that I actually do want to work on but idk how to write lol

They're made in Gacha Life 2 if anyone wonders why they don't look drawn.

So in the pictures we have a couple of them, but I actually don't have names for anyone but the green one because I SUCK AT NAMES.

So... anyways the green one is Stunail. The Moth girl is his cousin who has social anxiety and the Butterfly is his older sister. The two dragons are caretakers of a botanical garden and they're friends with Stunail and his cousin.

In that universe, humans are mixed with bugs and other kind of species. There's no racism, but golly there is a lot of specism (discrimination against other species. Not to be confused with Speciesism. Yes I just made that first word out). There's special hatred towards "dirty" and "useless" species, such as Snails, Flies/Mosquitoes, Cockroaches, Rats, and a few more.

Some of them are banned in public spaces in the most specist regions (which are fortunately very few) and have a hard time getting employed, and if they do get employed they usually get paid less than a "normal" species. Some are seen as dangerous and scary, and others as a waste of air and useless to society.

Ofc it's not super obvious at first sight, but it's the subtle things that makes the specism stand out. Looking weird at them, sitting somewhere else if they sit next to you, put your children to play with a different kid in the playground, ignore if they're talking, avoid them if they're seen.

I'm unsure of what this story would follow, but I think it would be about Stunail proving the world that their and other hated species can be as capable and "normal" as any other species, and that they shouldn't be discriminated for their mere existence, and have the same rights as the rest of the species. Alongside Moth Girl's character development where she manages to, slowly, heal from her trauma and social anxiety.

Ohhh and here are some ✨side charaters✨ I also made

The only one with a name (again😞) is the mermaid, Merman! (although I might change his name because it's a little plain). The sheeps are twin brothers, the squid girl is an important administrator of the Eastern Ocean Empire, and Merman is the Monarch of the sea species in the Western side of this last mentioned Empire.

I plan for all of them to connect in one way or another to Stunail and his friends, but I still need to figure that part out "- -

Damn that was a lot of yapping. Hope whoever read all this liked it ^^ I appretiate any opinions about this last one specifically because it's something I actually wanna end up doing somehow.

(Please suggest names im begging on the floor rn)

#man I love my ocs so deeply #no one asked but Stunail's name came to me because I imagined people mocking him with this name because it's a combination of the words:#“stupid” and “snail”. And people would unironically call him by this instead of his real name so he stopped trying to correct people and #just run with it. How sad #I remember Moth Girl was called Mothica but I don't like that name anymore so- no she'll stick with Moth Girl until I can think of somethin #oc #ocs #oc lore #oc desing #oc art #oc fanart #(my friend actually made more fanart of Vinn but I didn't felt like showing it off lolll)#I have their sexualities figured out but not their lore #it's because of that goddamn woke agenda...........#/j #oh boy im so ready for this to get like 3 notes. but im happy as long as *someone* sees it #ask box

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xxpeppermintxx109 · 1 month ago

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hey mint! i'm a huge fan of your writing :) i wanted to ask something that i hope isn't an overstep about your writing process.

I'm trying to write my own fic for another fandom and i find myself looking to glbh and wondering how on god's green earth you manage to paint your scenes so vividly- you make it feel like i'm standing next to shaera in sunspear and can smell the ocean (god i hope that isn't weird). i'm really struggling to depict the environment the characters are in :(

do you have any advice on building scenes? how do you make it feel so real?

hi anon!!

not an overstep at all!! It means so much that you would ask me! Like genuinely :)

Honestly, I think any of my creative writing professors or even my agent lol would moan and groan about how many adjectives I use. I just know if I ever turned in a chapter of glbh to any of them, I’d get back an entire chapter of red corrections LMAO.

But I think that’s why it works sometimes? Cause I know it’s over the top sometimes. I know I don’t need to always go so in depth with descriptions and I know it’s cringe sometimes (trust I’ve gotten DM’s about it lol) but I think that’s fun! Idk. I think the easiest thing is to just have fun with it. Go outside sometimes and just sit with nature for a second, or with another person (safely of course cause covid and h5n1, so mask up!), and just try to take in everything around you. I often use my grounding exercises for my OCD panic attacks, and try to think about multiple things which make up each of my senses. I also try to just read as many books as possible, especially in other languages. It just really widens your breadth of vocabulary! It’s not so like surgical as one may think, but I just try to envision everything as best I can and then transfer it to my notes app (I also write every chapter on my notes app on my phone so that I can write whenever and wherever!).

And then building a scene up, idk honestly. Rn with the show, it’s helpful with the breaks they do, but y’all know I’m not trying to rely on that too much. There are some scenes I’m obviously using cause they’re pertinent imo, but it’s honestly harder to write those ones. When I’m just working on scenes from my brain and outline, I kind of work sporadically. I’ll write one scene one day, and then write another scene that would be earlier in the chapter like a week later. I rearrange chapter povs all the time, trying to tweak it all so it flows well. But scenes really just need to feel right to you! Think of a setting that fits the plot. Build up that setting alone, because your characters can’t exist without their setting. Think about how your characters would then react. Then how would they react to one another, influenced by the immediate world surrounding them. Try to get some dialogue flowing—does it feel stilted or smooth? Try and say it aloud, see if you can imagine yourself saying those things. And just keep going with that scene until you feel it’s hitting a break point. Don’t pass that point. Don’t force the scene either. Go with what you feel is satisfying to you as the writer!

I hope this is helpful! And if you ever feel comfortable sharing your fic, don’t be afraid to send it along! I love to write fic, but I never would have unless I read it first :)

Thank you for asking too, it means the world that my writing means so much to you :,) I’m sure your fic is beautiful and if you ever need advice, don’t be afraid to reach out! Technically I do have my master’s in creative writing, and if I was teaching rn, this would be my job haha. But also, I just love to write and read, and that’s the most important thing. A degree or training doesn’t make the writer; their love for the art does :)

- mint

#xxpeppermintxx109 #greenliesblackheartswip #green lies black hearts #anon asks

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zarahjoyce · 1 year ago

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MITD Fic: aftermath

Summary:

"Isn't it weird, Hyung?" Jun O tells his brother, just after they've eaten a particularly delicious dinner that Min O had prepared for him. "I felt like... I fell in love with someone without me falling in love with her. Like I miss her all the time but at the same time I don't and it's just--" He rubs his forehead and sighs aloud. "I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes."

Jun O, in the aftermath.

Notes:

I HAVE A LOT OF FEELINGS ABOUT MOON IN THE DAY THAT I CAN'T STOP MYSELF FROM WRITING THIS... THING IDK.

now also with Ao3 link!

Protect Kang Yeong Hwa. I need to keep Kang Yeong Hwa safe. Jun O finds himself often waking up in the middle of the night, shaking, sweating, breathing hard. The thoughts beat in his mind like a drum, growing louder and louder until he's deafened by them. He drags his hand through his hair, trying to calm himself down, trying to keep his chest from bursting.

Protect her from what? Why do I need to keep her safe? He doesn't hear any answer, however.

He never did.

And he's left wondering what that was all about for the rest of the night.

Min O notices the bags under Jun O's eyes, but never comments on them.

"Did you sleep well?" he asks instead.

No. I never do.

"You know, Hyung," Jun O quietly replies, playing around with his food without any urge to eat them, "I know I told myself that I wouldn't feel curious about--"

He stops.

Kang Yeong Hwa. Even the mere thought of her name makes Jun O feel a deep sense of... yearning? Longing? For a woman he barely knew.

Which is ridiculous, of course.

So, he just draws a deep breath.

And forces a smile for his brother's sake.

"Never mind," he says instead. "What's my schedule for today?"

He finds that handling a sword came so natural to him, it felt like he's been doing it his entire life. Like it's an extension of his limb. Like cutting lives is something he did everyday.

Don't even get him started on how ridiculously easy it was for him to hit a bullseye with an arrow - something he'd been awful at before.

"Who knew I'd find sageuk dramas so easy to do?" Jun O muses out loud, patting himself on the back for a job well done - according to the director, no less.

Manager Jang glances at him from the driver's seat. "Yeah," he says, and Jun O frowns at the odd tone of his voice. "Who knew."

Dismissing that, Jun O gets his phone to scroll for articles praising his acting abilities - as they should - when he blurts out, "You're in contact with Kang Yeong Hwa, right? How is she?"

Thankfully, they were waiting for a green light, giving Manager Jang a chance to actually turn to him and say, "How'd you--"

"You're dating her friend, right? The one she thinks of as her sister. The one who owes her--"

And then Jun O shuts his mouth, and stares at his manager in horror. "I knew that? How do I know that?"

"T-that was what I was about to ask you," Manager Jang replies. "By any chance, do you actually remember--"

The car behind them honks its horn.

Jun O rubs his forehead.

"Drive," he orders Yoon Je. "Just... just drive."

By pure chance, his next project was about him being a firefighter.

Jun O dreaded coming to the fire station. If only because that meant the possibility of coming face to face with--

Kang Yeong Hwa. And his heart skips a beat.

Manager Jang must have noticed his obvious discomfort. "You know," he says, "if you're worried about seeing Kang--"

"Worried? Who said I'm worried? Are you worried? I'm not worried!" Jun O replies in rapid succession, scoffing all the while. "Why would I be--"

"She actually left yesterday," his manager continues. "For Antartica. So you won't be seeing her anymore."

Jun O stares at his manager.

"--oh," he says.

A beat.

"That's good," Jun O adds. "That she's... gone. That's good."

Except he felt like weeping.

Min O pats his hand. "Do you want to see her?"

"No," Jun O replies quickly - which tells him that that was honestly what he was feeling. "No. It'll fade, whatever this is. I just need to bear it. I did beat cancer, of all things. I can beat this phantom feeling too."

"That's right. Just persevere and you'll win." His brother smiles at him. "You're growing up, Jun O. I'm glad."

Except this didn't feel like growing up.

It just feels like he's lost.

But Han Jun O perseveres.

The next few years flew by in a hurry. Thankfully, Jun O's schedule had been packed with projects that he hadn't had enough time to mind anything else.

Today, however, he's scrolling through his phone, browsing through the news to find anything related to him when he spots--

--an article about a miracle firefighter saving lives from a burning building - including a pregnant woman and her three children.

Kang Yeong Hwa, was the firefighter's name, written in bold print.

And Jun O waits for that achy feeling that haunted him before to envelope him at the mere sight of it.

Except it never came.

Come to think of it, he couldn't even remember the last time he thought of her.

And even now that he is, Jun O doesn't at all feel... overwhelmed.

Just... happy. At the thought of her living her life and saving lives in the process.

He sighs and smiles in relief.

I'm free of you, Kang Yeong Hwa. Finally. Guess this means I win.

#did i just write something what #moon in the day #han jun o #kang yeong hwa #kim do ha #I HAVE A LOT OF FEELINGS

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macawritesupdates · 9 months ago

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Hey you wrote my prompt for the court of vipers sequel! Thank you!!! I loved it so much it was beautifully written ❤️ 💖 💕. You did a wonderful job bringing the idea to life. Oh my goodness, it became so much more than i ever could have hoped. I feel like just seeing how you take prompts and expand them into full chapters and interweave lore into the narrative in a way that feels natural and not like boring exposition is soo cool I almost feel like a better writer by proxy just by reading your work. I had given up on being a writer myself for a while but idk something about seeing how you do it makes me want to try again. OK gushing about the way you do things done now on to the actual chapter, loved seeing Sukuna's morning routine she's great and I loved toji adding himself to the narrative 😀 I think that's why he kept appearing in cannon jjk so often that man wants to be written lol. I loved Yuuji being a good boy and solving people's problems while completely unaware of all the assassination attempts. Oh my boy, thank goodness you have Sukuna, your scary wife has your back. Man putting the failed assassins in the garden of the people who sent them is hard core Sukuna does not fuck around or rather Sukuna fucks around so much that it loops back around to being serious and all her enemies get to find out. It was great to see Sukuna casually stopping the attempts but damn i did feel a little bad for that poor servant. Those nobles must have been so terrified sitting through that meal knowing that she knows they tried to kill her husband. Aww the end scene was both funny and hot like damn. Awww wait Sukuna wants him to stay in bed with her a little later thats so cute. I do love seeing Sukuna in an environment where she gets to use her extreme murderous intelligence for good it's like enrichment for her. She's like a wild tiger she needs to hunt and protecting Yuuji gives her the opportunity to do that without any guilt or self hate over being just a monster because she's doing a good thing by keeping him safe. She's got terrible claws and teeth, but she's putting them to good use she may not be a traditional hero but without her the real sunshine hero would definitely get murdered. Who would have thought the best way to get Sukuna to stop being a calamity on the land would be to give her a cute little husband and let her loose on his enemies. She's focused, she's happy, and she's getting laid all the time. She doesn't have time to mess up some random village she's already juggling so many scemes and making good on all these covert threats while trying to get her and her husbands throne back. Man Sukuna benefits from this marriage as much as Yuuji those two really are perfect for each other. They balance each other out so well her greatest strengths are his greatest weaknesses, but the reverse is also true. So long as they have each other for support they can thrive and be happy in a way that they just could not manage on their own. He has too much compassion and good will but she'll protect him and prevent him from giving too much so he doesn't burn out. Meanwhile she gets to bask in that good will more than anyone else which let's her have all the love she was denied growing up, love given freely to her just because of who she is. She is not unlovable but it takes someone uniquely kind and strong and stubborn like Yuuji to really give her what she needs. Basically both of them are super super lucky. Anyway great work as always!!

I always say keep on writing! It is a good way to relax and it took me many years to let go of tying my worth as a writer to comments/kudos/subs/ect. It is a hard habit to break, but doing so, I feel your art just gets more your own voice! Also glad you enjoyed the chapter! Sukuna seems to behave if he is given the enrichment to be awful in contained situations XD He just wants to be a violent bastard, let him have room to cook! Sukuna will get Yuuji his throne back, one way or another, then gleefully protect it for sure XD

#Maca answers asks #love the long comments <3 #they are food for the soul!

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dumpdaily · 1 year ago

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No one was there for me as a kid. I was isolated beyond belief. Bullied in school. The cops wouldn't help me. Nothing. I was turned into a problem child even though I was doing my best to do what people wanted. Pedo shit seemed like the only way I would get any acknowledgement of my existence. Then I got too old.

I had betrayals that seemed almost comical. As an adult I didn't find any support or anything really. I really don't know what to believe or anything. It wasn't until my last relationship that I really learned what love felt like. The first time I've really smiled was with him. But he's dead now.

I had to fight for everything. I was trying my best to be better. I was trying to make new friends. But it's been over a decade now of trying my best. I never really drank alcohol or did drugs or did anything bad for the most part. But I never learned how to live either. I still don't know what I'm allowed to do in a lot of ways.

I love my grandparents but they were busy with work 24/7 until the past few years. Also no one wants to believe that their kid is a bit of a piece of shit. It's hard to feel close to people who defended someone who hurt you so deeply but I understand it. They care about me but it's hard for me to feel it.

No matter what I do it seems like there's no way to work around the damage that's been done. I was really struggling with my physical health already but with losing the person who I was just starting to accept actually loved me. Idk. I just want to be done with it all.

I still wonder how much of anything was real. My abandonment issues are even worse than before. I think I might've been okay if I had managed to make some friends before this all happened, but I didn't. I do have 4 friends but all of them have lives and I don't get to talk to them very often.

I don't have anyone to talk to. Just in general. But I can't handle talking to strangers rn. Trying to reach out to form new connections is incredibly painful because most people don't like me. I thought about trying to stream again on twitch but no one cares so I'm just talking with myself.

I'm exhausted from having tried so hard for so long. Hoping for things to change. I kept going from shit situation to shit situation but different. And when I finally got things into a good situation, I lost my ability to walk. I lost my job. My legs were basically my lifeline because I could always walk away before. Now I was trapped. I was only just starting to recover from it all when the person I love died.

So now I don't want to put the effort into getting better. Why bother. As soon as anything good comes, it gets cursed. There's no time to enjoy it. And I'm painfully aware of how much worse everything could be. At least I'm not being drugged or trafficked or whatever. I can easily imagine much worse positions to be in.

I'm scared that reincarnation is a thing. Physically speaking I got relatively lucky in this life. To my knowledge I haven't even broken a bone. Emotionally however I was cursed with no connection. Until much later in my life and then it was torn from me. I think I'd take the physical pain and have people to bond with if I could.

It's too late for me now. I've been so thoroughly annihilated. It would take another miracle to save me. I've already had too many miracles in my life. I've already survived too many times. 25kg is something I hold onto to remind me that it was real. You can see it in the pictures. I just wish I could afford peace. I want to be free. But yet I keep living.

#dumpdaily #vent #tw #trauma #isolation #childhood trauma #tw sui ideation #grief

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traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors · 2 years ago

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Hi, TW for neglect, mentions (vague) of childhood abuse

I was wondering if you have any advice for learning how to not neglect yourself/getting used to the outside world? I grew up very isolated and managed to move away, but I can't afford school and my work hours (very isolated, usually left 100% alone) keep me very busy.

Especially with the pandemic (stuck 2+ years alone with my questionable parents with no outside contact) I don't have much experience with the outside world and how people treat each other and expect to behave. I try my best but I often get triggered in crowds and also have this weird thing where I give off an uncanny valley effect (never was able to make friends and the closest thing to family I have don't like being near me because of it).

I also have found that without the motivation of fear of parentals, I really don't care much about myself. I find it really hard to eat (most of the food I buy (I don't buy much) goes bad), it's dark by the time work is over so going out carries the risk of being attacked (depending on where you are, plus there's no where to go since most places are closed by the time I'm off work).

idk sorry if this is a bit rambly. I'm just really lost, I have no one I can ask advice from, my closest friend is busy and told me that "because I've lived through so much she'd never worry about me because I can withstand anything", and I honestly miss living with my parents because even if they weren't the best and they did things that hurt me at least I know how to behave there. Like I know the rules and I know what's expected of me.

Thanks for any advice you may give, hope you have a good day

Hi anon,

I'm so sorry about what you've been through.

Something I hear you saying is that a part of you misses living with your parents even if they hurt you because at least it would be more familiar. It's quite common for trauma survivors to want to go back to an environment that was unsafe for them because for them it almost feels more safe than the situation you're in now where you may feel lost and confused. But it's also worth considering which may cause you more harm in the long run.

I also don't think it's quite fair for your friend to say that you can withstand anything, because while you are incredibly strong, you are human as well, and it's natural for things to bother you. These two things can coexist.

I found some helpful tips on practicing self-care through small gestures. I also thought that this article had some helpful suggestions on working on self-care. That being said, working through these things are much easier said than done. If you can access or afford it, and if you don't already have it, I recommend looking into getting a therapist. A mental health professional could help you navigate this further.

I hope I could help. Please let us know if you need anything.

-Bun

#mod bun #trauma talks #tw abuse #tw child abuse

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ultrvmonogamy · 22 hours ago

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Hey, you don't have to answer but you seem like you give good advice.

I'm not submissive with someone unless I really trust them a lot because the stuff I like could be super dangerous if done with someone who doesn't respect me.

Plus I'm not rlly even attracted to someone unless they rlly value me & vice versa.

I keep attracting people who are more submissive than me which is definitely not my thing.

I'm algolagnic but lean toward masochism, not in a self harming way, just because I like certain sensations & think it builds trust and intimacy.

Do you have any tips for attracting the right kinda people without having to betray my personality or sense of self preservation?

this anon is from october of 2023, which was right around the time tumblr went from being very welcoming to kinda hellish for me, and i never got around to answering. idk if ur still around or if ur concerns are still relevant, but for whatever reason i just read ur message and started typing.

Hey, you don't have to answer but you seem like you give good advice.

i wonder if u still feel that way.

also, i appreciate u giving me an out, but honestly telling me i don't need to answer is a pretty reliable way to never get an answer from me. i'm just terrible like that bc there r always a zillion things i wanna be doing unless i wanna be doing nothing at all, and both of those conditions benefit from anything being easily eliminated.

i think in general i'm kinda hardwired to brush off or completely let go of anything i don't have to think abt unless i happen to find it compelling in the moment. that works well for me in the short-term but often is detrimental in the long-term. idk if ur familiar w the eisenhower matrix, but this proclivity is particularly bad for the "important but not urgent" quadrant and similar realms. i imagine a whole lot of ppl r similar to me in that manner, and it's rly too bad bc i'll bet that managing that quadrant well is a far far better predictor of success/satisfaction/happiness than smth like IQ or possibly even environment n resources available to us upon spawning in.

enough of me though, wow. not sure why i started going on abt myself in the first place.

I'm not submissive with someone unless I really trust them a lot because the stuff I like could be super dangerous if done with someone who doesn't respect me.

that sounds very healthy to me, and i fully agree w ur assessment re danger and respect.

Plus I'm not rlly even attracted to someone unless they rlly value me & vice versa.

this also strikes me as healthy n considerably so at that. it's unfortunately rare n for most a rather enviable position to be in, i'd think. so u've got that going for u, which is nice..

I keep attracting people who are more submissive than me which is definitely not my thing.

based on how u've described urself combined w the self-awareness implicit in what u've expressed, i am not at all surprised that u find urself attracting ppl more submissive than u. and tbh i wouldn't expect that to stop happening. u sound like u've got strong character, might generally be a strong person, or at the very least have enough of a center that ur own gravity field will inevitably draw in ppl who do not have as established a center or who r looking for one outside of themselves. to be clear, i do not believe or intend to imply that submissive ppl r necessarily meek (see urself in my estimation for a counter-example, in fact), but i do think that ppl who lack a strong center tend to be or act submissive. and ppl who r submissive r by definition drawn to [not all] ppl who've got a more rooted presence.

what i'm rly trying to say (and which u may already know) is that u attracting ppl who r more submissive than u does not necessarily mean ur putting out the wrong signals or giving off the wrong vibes. more succinctly: it's not mutually exclusive to attracting dominant ppl. although it's maybe going to be noise that u'd prefer to avoid, i don't think it's smth u should be discouraged by or is indicative of u not being attractive to the right ppl as well. i dunno if i worded that v clearly, but i hope u get my meaning regardless.

I'm algolagnic but lean toward masochism, not in a self harming way, just because I like certain sensations & think it builds trust and intimacy.

that makes sense to me. btw a year and a half ago when i first read ur message is when i learned the word "algolagnic", so thanks for that :)

Do you have any tips for attracting the right kinda people without having to betray my personality or sense of self preservation?

if I'm to judge from ur message (which is all I've got to go by), i don't see any indication that ur not doing exactly what u need to. for the reasons i mentioned, i don't see that attracting submissives is a bad sign (and if ur true to ur personality and sense of self-preservation, i rly think it's going to be inevitable).

i do think it's probable that by actually having a sense of self and valuing self-preservation, ur driving away a whole host of "dominants" who wouldn't be right for u by virtue of the fact that those qualities r contrary to their desires/ambitions (whether consciously or subconsciously). if u happen to feel like (all other things even) ur getting disproportionately less attention than other subs around u, it rly could be down to exactly that.

i wish i had some kind of actionable advice i could propose to make it easier for u, but i think it can just be rly difficult to find quality ppl if u have standards and value ur own integrity. if u broadcast that u don't care abt urself or that ur fragile enough to be groomed into betraying urself, u'll undoubtedly find urself the target of orders of magnitude more attention, but that would be tragic.

tl;dr: stick to ur guns. be true to urself. if the attention from subs is troubling or bothersome or undesirable to u in and of itself, maybe u can find ways to pre-empt it by making it clear u don't want it. other than that i don't think i've got much more to offer here than to wish u patience and luck. fwiw, i obviously don't know what else u have going on good or bad or in between, but u seem to me like u've got a lot going for u.

maybe someone else reading this has some different perspective to offer?

thank u for the ask. sry abt the ridiculous delay 🫶

#mail #anon #oc

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batsplat · 3 days ago

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hi i started watching tennis this year and i found your blog when browsing tumblr and i really enjoyed reading your opinions about tennis!

one thing i have started being curious about though was kind of the concept of acceptable behaviour as a tennis player. in general i follow tennis news and fan opinion stuff on reddit and the general vibe seems to be that racket smashing or screaming or other tantrum-like activities is super bad and obviously the wta and atp discourage these activities by having rules in place to punish people who do them ex. giving point penalties for swearing although i'm not sure i've seen it happen so far and i have definitely witnessed players swearing so maybe it doesn't matter that much to the tennis organizations? Personally i don't think there's really anything wrong with this type of behaviour, i feel like it's part of the game, but joining fan communities like reddit made me realize it seems like stuff like breaking rackets, screaming or other things that could be displays of frustration has a very negative perception.

So i was just every wondering what your opinion on racket smashing or players throwing tantrums mid-match or other similar behaviours is and why you think that most fans view behaviour like that in a very negative light? Also whether you think the tennis organizations should be more strict about punishing things like breaking rackets, swearing etc. since i feel like i rarely see any sort of punishment given despite these behaviours being forbidden in the rule book and also how they seem to be unpopular with fans.

ah yes, a favourite topic of tennis discourse. this is proooooobably not going to come as a great shock to you, but I personally take a pretty laissez-faire approach to acceptable conduct for tennis players. I'm not completely in the 'everything goes' camp but I'm definitely more pro outbursts of emotion than the average tennis fan. idk I think my case for this is pretty straightforward - I like my athletes with emotions, I like them imperfect, I don't want them all to be perfectly composed on court at all times. playing tennis is a pretty hellish experience and tbh it does kinda drive you insane, and to me it's pretty compelling to actually see that process play out. I don't need ALL tennis players to be like this, but the point is you get a contrast in how to manage emotions. and I wouldn't want all of that to go

the reasons why tennis fans don't like it... well, first off, tennis is quite a conservative sport. it's not seen as part of the 'image' of tennis, this idea of the gentleman's sport that's somehow being tarnished. to some extent I feel like this ship has kinda sailed... mcenroe has to be one of the players who still remains most enduringly in the general public's consciousness, who was obviously infamously the opposite of that. then again, you could say the point of that kind of figure is that he's memorable because he's seen as the exception. but yeah, there's just sort of this stuffy reflexive commitment to 'traditions' or whatever... idk I don't have any such commitment so I'm probably doing quite a poor job at articulating that stance. one commonly cited issue is how players should act as role models and their impressionable young audience might copy them. and, look, sorry, but fuck them kids. I don't care! I played juniors tennis and I kinda think those little brats are going to be monsters whatever you do. while I never myself smashed a racquet because my mum would have murdered me, I did know a lot of kids who smashed raquets - and often in sizeable numbers. (obviously also a class element to this but... not as much as you'd think, some kids from pretty low income backgrounds went through quite a few racquets and somehow their parents kept shelling up.) but at this point, idk, this is also the parents' responsibility. do NOT allow your kid's role model to be a TENNIS PLAYER, that's a TERRIBLE idea. I just don't find it a reasonable expectation to curtail the emotions shown in professional sports because a few kids might be watching

but also, fan sentiment is a complicated topic... I'm hardly the only fan who is into racquet smashes, for instance. even amongst those nominally against it, you do sometimes detect a certain scandalised enjoyment of poor behaviour - something to mock but also to look out for. tennis fans do like making someone the villain. also, it's worth pointing out that tennis fans are often massive hypocrites about this. tennis MEDIA are often hypocrites - for years and years, kyrgios got a considerably lighter ride than colleagues who did stuff that was a lot less egregious, and it's only in the last few years the mood has turned against him. (though you'll still find a stray telegraph journalist willing to take up the cause and explain to us why he's What Tennis Needs.) I can also go for an example a bit closer to home and mention that... you bring up reddit, and like. hate to say it but medvedev - for all the shit he gets from live crowds - is a favourite player of much of the internet including reddit, which means he often gets a lot more leeway than his peers. it's because he's charismatic and makes for an effective pantomime villain. he behaves poorly but he's funny about it, he'll come up with a one-liner or a bit of odd behaviour that makes you laugh. he probably also benefits from some biased umpiring in that regard - he gets a pretty light touch and there's definitely times where I feel like he should have (by the rules) racked up more code violations than he had. though he is also clever about it and has a good feel for how far he can push things in terms of avoiding penalty

a memorable example of this is from his monte carlo 2023 match against zverev, where zverev broke in the second set to serve for the match. as they went to their changeover, medvedev went to the net and removed the singles stick and tossed it to the ground. the umpire went down from his chair to put it back up while exchanging some pretty light-hearted lines with medvedev. zverev laughed in a kind of bemused way, the tension of the match situation was broken and medvedev successfully broke back the next game, going on to serve for the match. medvedev wasn't even given a code violation for what he did. now, obviously I am in support of this on every level - and yes, it was creative, that's not something directly written in the rulebook. but... you could have given him a code violation for unsportsmanlike conduct. the umpire didn't. this is an even murkier zone where it does kinda cross over from outbursts of emotion to gamesmanship (something I personally like even more than the emotions)... you can push the boundaries of the rules quite successfully

and it has to be said that, like you say, application of code violations in general can be pretty arbitrary. it's not a particularly consistent system and has pretty major flaws. a lot is left to the discretion of the umpires and umpires aren't prone to changing their minds. obviously controversial officiating is hardly unique to tennis, but there really is... a lot of frustration with the system right now. disqualifications last year - one I personally felt was more justified than the other - have prompted a lot of discussion on that ground. racquet smashes get faiiiirly consistently penalised, but stuff like swearing, ball abuse and so on are way more touch-and-go. the shot clock controlling time between points is an endless source of debate. also, the system has a one size fits all approach to penalisation that like... keeps things simple but it IS an issue. you basically get one freebie and then it escalates from there in terms of penalty - except for serious offences where you get immediately disqualified. which, again, there's an argument for the simplicity, but sometimes it feels a bit weird what gets the same punishment

ofc there's also a tier of what I personally find objectionable offences. I think swearing, with the exception of slurs obviously, is like... idk man, it feels silly to penalise, it's also a bit of a pain with all the different languages and equality on THAT front and I just don't really care. racquet smashes are to me also completely unobjectionable. the only thing you are hurting is your racquet. some of these players are so obscenely rich, richer than I personally feel any individual should be, that it feels pretty silly to be talking about a racquet that costs like a hundred fifty quid. nadal needs to worry less about being respectful to his plastic sticks and worry more about paying his taxes, which to me is a considerably more important metric of moral character. also, they're funny. I like watching racquet smashes, I like rating the technique. some of them are pretty hot. I am pro-racquet smashes. ball abuse where it goes into the crowd is more ehhhhhhhhhh and if it gets near a closer target - aka part of the staff actually on the court - then like. there I DO have an issue because you are injuring someone!! how players conduct themselves with officials also exists on a spectrum - I generally am like... kinda fine with players getting feisty with chair umpires, though there too a line can be crossed, but less fine when it's for instance with a line umpire who a) is less removed from the player, and b) can't talk back. and obviously any form of physical intimidation isn't acceptable, an acapulco 2022 type situation with zverev for instance. don't do that

on penalisation, I'm not like... radically against racquet smashes and swearing being penalised, to some extent I do think it's fine that if you do those things you do get a code violation and you have to take that into account. I also think it's maybe not bad to have a few guidelines to stop things getting completely out of hand, though I would like there to maybe be room for a BIT more. if you could smash one racquet a set idk. that being said. I am not fine with those offences being placed on the same level as ball abuse for instance, I think violations that are pretty unlikely to hurt anyone should be regulated the most lightly. and what I really really REALLY don't like is that self harm is currently allowed under the rules. you aren't allowed to smash up your racquet, but you know what you are allowed to smash up? your knees. this!! feels!! insane!! to me!! it is WORSE for you to bloody yourself up as self-punishment for playing poorly than for you to break a fucking racquet!! if there's ANY instance where I'd countenance the 'won't you think of the kids' argument, then surely it's that?? like idk man, I also don't enjoy watching that, I find it pretty distressing actually - and realistically, penalising it is probably one of the best ways to stop it from happening. so like,, penalise that, get more chill about the racquets

basically I think penalisation has to be reconsidered a bit within the rules:

I think part of the issue is that... sometimes there's just offences that don't feel like they SHOULD get a proper penalty, and if it's up to the discretion of the umpire then they might just let it slide. but obviously that does lead to very unbalanced officiating. ideally I'd probably like a penalty point system that doesn't treat every offence equally, which might liberate umpires to give code violations more consistently without feeling they're having an undue impact on match outcome for something pretty minor. but also I do see how that'd be seen as unwieldy,, and I'm not sure the tennis world will be all that up for my proposal of 'four racquet smashes are fine, actually'. my argument would be: if you set up incentives that implicitly make racquet smashes less problematic than other forms of code violation, then you will make it more likely they smash their racquets than do that other stuff. you're giving them a pretty entertaining pretty safe way of releasing their emotions - and for instance ball abuse I feel would go way down. which... idk, I just think it'd be a preferable model. you're not giving them complete free reign, but you are setting up more sensible incentive structures. at the same time, I would be Fine with making penalties for ball abuse and self-harm more severe

but that's the officiating pov. in general, just as a viewer, I'm pretty fine with anything that doesn't cause physical harm. I think a lot of bad behaviour is fun to watch and spices up proceedings. I also really don't like this... conflation that goes on where tennis fans seem to equate good behaviour on the court with being a good person off it. idk man, often they really aren't related, people can be very different on the match court. just because somebody is cool and composed while playing, doesn't mean they can't be a terrible person. there's also this quasi-fetishisation of always having your feelings under control (cf nadal) which to me is just. okay congrats this is boring. again, I like it when players aren't perfect!! I also think fans are assholes sometimes - I have a complicated relationship to jeering and booing in tennis, but sometimes it's just ridiculous what kind of stuff gets an extreme negative reception. fans need to get a grip. and they need to be less judgemental... obviously this stuff becomes particularly unpleasant when it intersects with misogyny, women's emotional outbursts are always more heavily policed and stuff like the reaction to sabalenka smashing a racquet backstage post uso 2023 final is so... predictable and gross. we shouldn't even have SEEN that, give these players some privacy, but given we did see that. the reaction should have been 'good on her'. sometimes smashing a racquet... feeling an emotion, even. is fine. even in tennis

and this is what I will leave you on

toss that shit away

#and that's really nice :) hope youre enjoying following tennis #//#racquet tag #batsplat responds #the thing about tennis reddit is that is SO much better than it used to be but still kinda exhausting #i wish wta had a separate subreddit tbh. like i kinda like the lack of gender segregation but i also.... don't

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columbiafawn3 · 5 days ago

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Just came home from Mecca team meeting and I’m feeling kinda jittery idky. It may also have something to do with the fact I haven’t really had any substantial meal today. Like I’ve had snacks here and there but no sit down, this is dinner meal.

I want to go downstairs and eat smth and I’m thinking maybe Singapore noodles with some frozen prawns I saw in the freezer.

I’m also here to say that I bought the eBay coat.

Total ended up being $519, which is alright but I’m still a bit annoyed cos eBay always finds something extra to charge you for.

I’m feeling quite frazzled, and I think it also has smth to do with my tax return money coming through and knowing what I should be doing with it, vs what I want to be doing with it.

I should be investing it straight away. But I want to spend it on things… the great tension of my life.

Then I’m also undecided on the Nars palette. I like the glittery idea but I also have so many Nars eyeshadows in the singles that I don’t need any more. I’m only tempted because I can get it for $30. But that’s $30 that I could spend elsewhere. I could even just ignore the palette like I’ve managed to do for the whole time it’s been out. I really don’t need a new eyeshadow palette to worry about.

Lel look at me begging myself not to buy it.

Ok I deleted the Mecca app to truly remove that temptation.

No more makeup purchases please!

I could also be jittery from sun exposure. That just occurred to me. I could have a mild case of sun stroke from my midday beach trip?

Quite possible.

Ugh I wish my mind would stop tormenting me with things to buy. I just want to live in peace.

I’m really considering just stashing the money in Raiz so I don’t have to think about it.

Actually I should book the German course. But I also need to do a placement test for that, which took a long time last time I tried. So I’ll cut out like an hour for that some time in the next two days.

I should also email the person in charge of PSYU3337 asking where and when the lectures are so I don’t miss out whilst I wait for my credit overload to be approved.

Girl has a lot to do it seems, so maybe this eyeshadow palette is a distraction from the real pressing issues of my life.

I do think I’ve been relying on the media and the internet as a way to avoid my current circumstances. Avoid the fact I’m living st jome and feeling increasingly restricted. I was even wondering about a share house today. That’s how you know I’m getting desperate.

I’m really going back and forth on this Dior backstage palette, because on one hand I love purple and I see the potential of more understated eye looks as more flattering on me, but I also see that I’ll most likely be left wanting more impact from it each time I use it. Like when I use the bronze neutrals it just feels a bit meh, so I end up reaching for the laguna quad.

Those laguna quads are actually quite slay, I must say. As much as I have myself a hard time for buying them and I’m tempted to declutter them quite often, if I want a golden or a bronze look and I want impactful glitter, then I’ll go for those two palettes. They sort of were my summer palettes whether I liked it or not. Summer unrated still has a place in my heart, but I do struggle to break out of ruts that I’ve got myself into with that palette — pairing certain colours exclusively with others etc.

Yk I long for a frosty eye look. Random, but I love the simplicity of my three MUFE single shadows being my only frosty blue options. I don’t really do blue as often as I would like because in my head it requires a lot of blending and precision, which I usually am not bothered to do unless it’s a night out.

But yeah I’m really after that frosty winter eye look recently, which is what’s drawing me to the celestial purple palette. But I could create quite a similar thing just by pairing sultan with the mufe white, couldn’t I?

Idk now I’ve got this fantasy in my head of using the Dior backstage palette on the bus to uni, feeling like an editorial fashion queen with my 9-pan travelling eyeshadow.

Maybe I’ll budget for the eyeshadow palette and earn it. Maybe that’s what it’ll be: my little reward

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northropi · 2 years ago

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Further Character Design Rambles

I was just thinking and... Look I gotta get this off my chest because every day there's just something that makes switches what I consider my prevailing design, even for a bit. It's definitely something I've come to terms with, but still decidedly view as a problem to be mitigated, that my perception of self in regards to stuffing everything to a sona is, at best, rather fragile and, at worst, extremely impressionable.

Currently robot is winning if we go by what I think is the best measure, the one that I guess I think about more often. The Robot design has, I suppose, captured my imagination much more effectively. But that changes the instant I see a Dragon or a Dinosaur or a cool bird or a fkn Halloween decoration, if only for a little while. Like, what can I say? That design was cool too, but I think I'm moving on.

My concern, then, is if I'm just gonna always be moving on, over and over.

If this has always been a vain effort, that people are too complex to be expressed by fitting a set of themes to them, and crafting a vessel around it

To pour into this pretty little jar the ethers of their passions and their feelings and immerse them into it, what feels warm to them, what feels soft. It's a beautiful thing, but every time I've settled into one, I found myself wanting more- and quickly it all spills out.

I tell myself it's not just me being greedy, and the scary thing is that I think I'm being honest. I don't think I can just let go of some of these. Maybe I'll never be able to fit it all, and maybe I'll never be satisfied with what I can fit.

But two jars? I've seen some people manage it, but there's caveats for each one. Methods of interconnection and separation that themselves turn me off of the idea. They're good ideas, don't get me wrong, but the idea of moving from one to the next so quickly is simply unappealing to me. I've seen people explicitly set aside jars to suit their more auxiliary needs after filling the first, sometimes finding them to equalize in significance later- some make myriad jars, each one ever so slightly different, such that moving between them is painless. However, this is itself a factor in the jar that is not to my taste, as canonizing this fluidness or relationships between characters runs against a lot of what defines mine. Likewise I have to wonder if at some point those who dart from one jar to another and back again will eventually find one to settle in that they like the best, retroactively turning the lesser-used one into a trial run no different from my spirals of conceptualisation.

Still more seem almost blind to the significance of the jars to themselves as people, assembling something that is appealing, and another, and another- but none of which are truly "them." I'm no stranger to putting together jars for the sake of it, but to leave room in a jar for yourself only to fill the rest with things alien to you? That's not how I seem to work. That is, of course, the difference between a sona and a character, and in Northy, I want a single, satisfying, long-term if not lifelong example of the former. Will I be able to achieve that?

For most of the day lately, it feels like I have. But then it cracks, just a bit. Doubt is scary when you have to work this hard to even tell what you've got. And as I've strayed more and more from what I had before, I feel like I've betrayed myself, even these shells of myself that exist in my head, and to a slight degree even my friends- and would it inconvenience them if I were to back out of a decision?

look idk sometimes i wanna keep laying my scaly body on beds of treasure in a seaside cave but also i think tinkering on my mechanical form in a broad expanse of beautiful desolation is more at the heart of my vibe.

#artist sona #vtuber

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i feel so bad for you with the callouts about you faking being a lesbian bc of posts you made when you were a young teen

i just found writing from when iw was 12 of me pretending to like men and it hurts so much and its so fucking stupid it was kind of like your old posts at least it was completely private

the way it was written was like me trying to force myself to feel those ways and i even remember researching like most attractive man ever to try and find a guy to act like i was attracted to all while looking at them and feeling nothing at all... and id search for like hours trying to find a boy that i felt anyting for to pretend to wajt as a boyfriend.... i never even found one! my friend told me maybe i was 'aesthetically gay'when i was like "soo im totally straight but i do not find any men attractive at all"

i just have no idea how i didnt realize earlier i wasnt attracted to men with all that bfjdmfjd

i feel u 😭 the wildest part is that post was made to paint a certain image. there’s no emphasis on the posts being primarily from 2013-2014. nothing highlighting the fact that i was literally like 14-16 in ALL of the posts (and that the person who was calling me out is calling 15 year old me a whore / slut for what r obviously jokes. if i as a 15 year old managed to have sex 500 times with 420 men while in an long distance “relationship”… wouldn’t that be indicative of something rly insidious? like they’re obviously not legitimate numbers & were me exaggerating ridiculously bc i didn’t want to answer such questions. i didn’t know if my rapist / rape counted. i was dissociated through a lot of it). the wildest part is she intentionally ignored all the posts highlighting what ive been saying: i was literally on substances a lot of the time when in that guy’s vicinity. i considered him a friend and didn’t want a relationship but then gave in after he kept insisting we were together & facing other pressure and he was giving me substances to get my guard down & be able to do things to me. i even made posts back then saying “idk if i like guys at all or if im into girls or if i like anyone” and talking about how i don’t understand attraction and don’t feel love. i talked about the guy making me cry all the time (& would then downplay it and act like i cry over everything) and there’s hints that i was attempting suicide and on sedatives the day our “relationship” started (which was the day he decided we were in a relationship. i repeatedly said i don’t want it) and drunk + had repeatedly tried to kill myself the day i lost my virginity (if that even counts. maybe the time i was raped is when i lost it? who knows.). and when asked why i won’t leave or when id defend him it’s almost always “he’s the only person who’s there for me” “im scared”… never “i love him” or “im attracted to him” or anything of the sort. i was baffled going thru the blog bc i didn’t realise there were so many hints that it was unwanted. etc etc etc. no wonder when i finally ended it and refused to back down (had to do it repeatedly for like 6 months) he immediately said “is it bc you’re a lesbian?” 😐.

also yeah sadly the only diff between me and the Real Lesbians trying to argue im lying about my sexuality is that their closeted shenanigans isnt available for everyone to look at and analyse and pick apart. their trauma isn’t there on display for people to call them liars and partake in abuse apologism with. but this whole thing has only confirmed to me that my truth remains my truth & my story. it was pretty upsetting seeing how i was somehow so aware of my lack of attraction to men but so in denial of it at the same time. and it made me realise that that whole portion of my life might’ve been even worse than i remembered. i remember the suicide attempts but i didn’t realise how often i was out of it.

ALSO anon that’s such a mood. i did a lot of the same stuff 💀

#anonymous

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earlgreytea68 · 2 years ago

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Do you see yourself getting “done” with writing fic or musings about FOB anytime soon? I’m a fan of your fantastic writing from your Sherlock days, and nearly died of glee when you found FOB as they’re my longtime favourite band. In much the same way I tried to steel myself in the lengthy post-M A N I A years for the possibility of no more new FOB, I’m steeling myself against the possibility you’ll find a new preferred fandom…either way, I love your thoughts and the words you use to share them.

Awww thank you so much! I'm so glad that I managed to tumble from Sherlock into a fandom you loved! I feel like most of my poor readers just get dragged from place to place with me!

I can honestly never predict, like, when I'll feel "done" with a fandom. With Doctor Who and Sherlock, the shows did it for me, by finally annoying me enough that I didn't really want to write in them anymore. But I have no idea why I got "done" with Inception. Like, it's not like anything *happened.* Inspiration is unpredictable for me. Tbh, I hate it. Like, when I'm loving something and I'm loving writing something, I want to just keep it just like it is forever. I hate anticipating a time when I won't feel like writing it anymore. Tbh, this is why I write so much and so quickly. I always feel like I'm writing against a ticking clock and I have no idea how much time is left on it, and can I make sure that I get everything out before I lose interest? In a little bit of fairness to me? I think? I don't feel like I switch fandoms all that often. Like, once I get in one I tend to settle down and stay there for a while. But i never have any idea how long the stay will be and it's as distressing for me in its own way as it is for all of you!

Right now I'm enjoying FOB so much and that's really nice so I'm just letting myself enjoy it. And I miss writing them a lot a lot, since I'm supposed to be editing so I'm not allowed to write, and I want to write them so badly. So that's a good thing and I hope it stays that way, I really, really, do, I really WANT it to. Honestly, it's nice to have the album cycle underway and this band actually, like, doing stuff? That's been nice and energetic hahahaha

I will say, though, because I'm procrastinating editing but I'm not allowed to write anything new, I've been procrastinating by reading over my old stuff, and I saw a Tumblr post about fics where one of the characters almost dies and inspires confessions of love, and I was like, "That's how Lucky starts," so I just re-read Lucky and...Lucky is so good! hahahah I know it's obnoxious for me to say about something that I wrote but I read it and was like, Arthur and Eames are *lovely* together, what a sweet and lovely story, there was really no reason for me to grow tired of writing them, except that I did, Idk. Just inexplicable sigh, my whims.

Incidentally, I was struck by how much Arthur and Eames are very much NOT Pete and Patrick. Like, I was trying to imagine Patrick keeping Pete alive if he was hit by a bullet during a deal gone wrong in Nicaragua and I was like, ...yeah, Patrick couldn't pull this off, Patrick's no Arthur lollolol. Good thing Eames was with Arthur and not Patrick. Really, when I wrote that Inception/FOB crossover, it would have been absolutely hilarious imagining how terrible Pete Wentz would have been at dreamsharing, no wonder I made him the client instead lol (Also, is Pete, like, actually BOTH Arthur and Eames? Like, both the flirty ridiculous character AND the incredibly competent character????)

#peterick #fall out boy #fob #bandom #inception #writing

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helloalycia · 4 years ago

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teenage dirtbag [one] // wanda maximoff

summary: when you're paired with the most popular girl in your grade for Chemistry class, you definitely don't expect to start liking her like that...

warning/s: none i don't think??

author's note: okay so i have a ton of requests to work through but i got sidetracked and before i knew it, five parts of this imagine were written.

It's based off the song 'Teenage Dirtbag' and idk, i thought it was cute to write! Who doesn't love the popular girl!wanda and loner!reader concept?

Here’s a cover of the song to listen to because i really liked it and a girl sings it so it immediately made the song 10x more gay, just how i like it 🥰

"Are you all comfortable?"

The class stayed silent, watching our Chemistry teacher, Mr. Hale, as he looked to everyone with a raised brow.

"You all like who you're sat with?" he asked again, as if expecting an actual response from someone.

I exchanged questioning glances with my best friend, Y/BF/N, who was sat beside me. It was the first day back in Chemistry class of our final year of high school and we were just waiting to begin.

"Anyone?" he asked, looking around.

"Yeah," a few students mumbled in response so we could move on.

He clapped his hands together. "Great! Well, don't get too comfortable because I made a seating chart."

A chorus of groans erupted from the class, including from me and Y/BF/N. Every other class had successfully managed to not give us a seating chart. I'd heard that Mr. Hale was an awkward teacher who hated students (ironically), but I didn't think he'd stoop so low as to pair us with students who weren't our friends. These new seats were also our partners for the rest of the year and were non-negotiable, so any projects or work we did would have to be with our seat buddy. Fun.

Students began to shuffle to their newly-assigned seats reluctantly as Mr. Hale read out the chart. When Y/BF/N left my side, I frowned dramatically, waving goodbye to him.

"Wanda Maximoff, you're now partners with Y/N Y/L/N," said Mr. Hale, making me look up at the mention of my name.

I didn't get chance to register what he'd said as the aforementioned girl soon approached me, settling her bag on the table beside me. I looked up and saw Wanda Maximoff smiling my way before taking a seat on the stool.

Huh. Wanda Maximoff. She was one of the most popular girls in our grade. Everybody loved her, either wanting to be friends with her, be with her or be her. I'd personally never crossed paths with her apart from the few classes we shared. She seemed nice enough, but I guess I had preconceived notions of what she was like since she'd made the very poor decision to date the most obnoxious guy ever. Anyone making decisions that terrible definitely had a flaw.

She had a twin brother, Pietro, who was also in our grade and played on the football team alongside her boyfriend. Her parents were good friends with mine, through mutual friends, I think, as I recalled my mum mentioning 'Mrs. Maximoff's boy' or 'Mrs. Maximoff's girl'. And I remembered when her family moved into our town back in second grade.

Admittedly, Wanda was the star of the show back then, too. We were only kids, but child Y/N wasn't blind. She was the first girl I'd crushed on, an innocent child crush – the crush that made me realise I liked girls. Apart from that, and the fact that she had a locker behind me in the hallway, I never really thought about her.

I glanced behind me, catching Y/BF/N's gaze across the room as he sat beside some other kid. He frowned, implying he wished we were partners, and I knew just how he felt.

Once Mr. Hale finished assigning seats, he gave us five minutes to get to know our new partners as he struggled to find the powerpoint for today's class. If there was anything worse than getting assigned seats, it was ice breakers.

"Er, well, hi," Wanda greeted, turning to face me. Green eyes sparkled brightly behind a friendly smile. "I'm Wanda. But, I mean, we already know each other."

"That we do," I said with a nod, returning her smile. "How're you doing? Your summer go well?"

She ran a hand through her hair, adjusting herself so she was comfortable on her stool. And as she did, a waft of her perfume washed over me and I blinked, trying to ignore how nice it smelled. Floral. Subtle. It suited her.

"Good, yeah," she answered with a nod. "Could have gone on longer for all I care."

I chuckled. "I feel that. I'm definitely not ready to be back."

"Right?" she said with raised brows. "It's gonna take a while to get back into routine, that's for sure. But I guess I did miss seeing my friends everyday."

I hummed in agreement, eyes flickering to Mr. Hale as he attempted to tackle the oncoming stream of animations on his powerpoint. I tried not to laugh as I looked back to Wanda, who clearly noticed the same thing as me and stifled a smile.

"Have you had Mr. Hale before?" I asked, nodding his way.

She shook her head. "Nope. You?"

"Never."

"Sucks that he makes seating charts," she said with a sigh, before realising what she said and looking to me with panicked eyes. "Not that I don't like you or anything–!"

"It's fine, I get it," I cut her off with an amused smile. "I wanted to sit with my friend, too."

She breathed out quietly, a hint of relief in her eyes, and scrunched her nose with an apologetic smile. Okay, yeah, maybe that was kind of cute. Older Y/N wasn't blind either. Wanda Maximoff was beautiful, with long brunette locks and matching hazel eyes that seemed to change from blue to green to brown in a kaleidoscope of colour. A winning smile and soothing voice was enough for anyone to fall for her unintentional charm, but it was purely admiration. Everyone pretty much had a mild crush on her, you'd be stupid not to.

"If we're gonna be working together, d'you wanna get the whole awkward number exchange out the way now?" she asked, half joking, half not.

"I– er– sure," I stumbled out rather carelessly, before cringing internally. Where did that come from?

Thankfully, she didn't seem to pick up on it (or just saved me the embarrassment of acknowledging it) and was already writing her number on a slip of paper. Sliding it my way, she capped her pen and gave me her signature smile.

"Thanks," I said with a nod, accepting the paper and pocketing it. "Can't wait to start those lovely science projects we've got coming up!"

She let out a quiet laugh at my sarcasm. "It'll be fine. You're not dumb, right? So, we'll be fine."

"Can't promise you that," I joked, making her roll her eyes playfully.

"Maybe if we–"

But she was cut off when Mr. Hale spoke up loudly, interrupting everyone's conversations.

"Five minutes are up, let's begin!"

I wondered if everyone was thinking the same thing as me – that was not five minutes.

"So it begins...," I mumbled to myself, facing forward.

Wanda breathed out, a stifled laugh, probably having heard my comment, and I couldn't help but crack a smile. Maybe I judged her too harshly. She wasn't actually that bad.

—

Since being paired with Wanda, I was surprised by how much she'd made an effort to befriend me outside of class. We'd always been back to back with our lockers though not quite speaking, but since becoming Chemistry partners, she'd wish me a good morning if she caught me, or greet me briefly as we collected our books.

She didn't have to, but I could see why everybody liked her now. She was just genuinely nice. Due to circumstance, we'd become partners, but rather than leaving it at that, she made a genuine effort to befriend me. And not even just me, but also Y/BF/N, who was at the locker next to mine. He was as surprised as I was, expecting Wanda to mind her own business as we weren't exactly in the same social circles.

This was, I guess you could say, the start of our friendship. And it was a good one at that. I grew to learn how funny she was, how much she loved her brother, the passion she had for art and painting... she was a wonderful person. Which is why I didn't understand why she was with her boyfriend, Nate. He was a grade-A dick and everything Wanda wasn't. How were they a thing?

It sounds like I'm being a bitch and judgemental, but he really is the worst. The few unfortunate times I shared a class with him or caught sight of him around school, he was causing some sort of trouble with the teachers or picking on students in a way that made it seem like a joke but everybody knew it wasn't.

For example, there was a time when Wanda and I were studying for an upcoming Chemistry test we had. We decided to just help each other study since we already worked together in class, so knew we could motivate each other to actually put in the work. It was, maybe, the fourth studying session we had, and I was going over some notes when I felt her eyes watching me.

"You need a hand?" I asked, unable to take the staring any longer. I looked up at her, quirking a brow.

She seemed to fall out of her daydream and straightened up, eyes flickering to mine. "Huh?"

I gave her an awkward smile, unable to maintain her gaze. "You're staring."

She didn't seem fazed as I called her out, instead leaning back in her seat and continuing to study me curiously.

"Did you do something different with your hair?"

Subconsciously reaching for my hair, I straightened up my ponytail and shook my head. "No...?"

She chewed on her lip, saying after a pause, "You tied it up. You usually leave it out."

Did I? I wasn't sure. I just knew that her noticing something like that made me feel self conscious all of a sudden.

"It looks good," she decided, before offering up a small smile. "You should do it like that more often."

Quickly, I felt warm. Was it stuffy in here or was it just me? God, compliments already made me feel stupid. And compliments from pretty girls made me feel ten times that. It didn't help that she was watching me with an endearing expression, making me focus on my book before me.

"Thanks," I got out quickly. "I– yeah."

Her smile widened before she looked back down to her own book. Suddenly, I became acutely aware of the way her leg brushed up against mine under the table.

Thankfully, the strange fuzzy feeling following her compliment faded and we were able to get back to work without her tuning out again. As we were going over each other's practice questions, an annoying voice shouted from across the library.

"Wanda, head's up!"

"Hey, no talking in the library!" a librarian hissed at the voice.

Wanda and I looked up just in time for a football to smack me in the side of the head. I didn't even see it coming until I felt the thing slap my head, giving me an instant urge to strangle whoever threw it.

"Fuck," I cursed, holding my head and closing my eyes to breathe through the pain.

"Oh my God, are you okay?" Wanda's voice made me open my eyes and I saw her leaning forward, hand resting on my shoulder and the other on top of mine that was clutching my head.

"Been better," I admitted, trying to make light of the situation because as angry as I was at the idiot who threw it, I was also embarrassed because it hit me.

Wanda seemed concerned as she gently pulled me hand away, not letting go as she got a better look at the side of my face which I was sure was burning red. At least that's what it felt like.

"Shit, I'm so sorry."

I looked up and saw none other than Nate Green, Wanda's boyfriend, hovering and stifling a laugh as he looked at me. He had his stupid varsity jacket on and I was tempted to strangle him with it.

"I thought Wanda would catch it," he explained stupidly, before moving around the desk to collect his football.

Breathing out through gritted teeth, I pulled away from Wanda and nodded reassuringly. "I'll be fine. Just need an ice pack."

"You're such an idiot, Nate!" Wanda snapped, looking to him with a glare. "You need to watch what you're doing!"

He smiled sheepishly, making me roll my eyes and clench my jaw at the heat on the right side of my face. Fuck, that really hurt.

"What did you want?" Wanda asked him with a quirked brow. She definitely wasn't impressed. I'd hate to ever be on the wrong side of that condescending glare.

"I thought we could go out," he said like it was that simple.

"I'm studying," she quipped with crossed arms.

"I'm happy to wait," he said, toying with the ball in his hands.

Knowing I definitely didn't want that, I closed my books and said, "It's cool. You guys go. I think we're done here anyway."

Nate grinned. "See? S'all good."

Wanda ignored him and looked to me with worried eyes. "Y/N, are you sure?"

"You know your stuff," I said, referring to the work. "You'll be fine in the test. I'm sure."

I offered her a small, forced smile, before standing up to pack my bag. She did the same, beginning to pack her own things, but her eyes kept flittering towards me.

"D'you want me to go to the nurse's office with you?" she asked, shame laced in her voice.

"It's fine, I'll be fine," I said, hurrying up with my actions so I could just get out of here whilst I still had (some of) my dignity left. "See you in class tomorrow."

She nodded, sending a guilty smile my way. "See you tomorrow, Y/N."

Without giving either of them a look, I shouldered my backpack and left the library. Just another reminder of why Nate Green was literally the worst person ever.

—

Liking Wanda as more than a friend wasn't something that happened for a while if I'm being honest. I guess I started to enjoy her presence more and more the longer we spent time together.

I'd come to appreciate it whenever she'd say something completely out of the blue that made no sense whatsoever, or whenever she'd laugh at something I'd said that was arguably not funny but she didn't want to make me feel bad, or even whenever I teased her about something stupid she did, resulting in her doing that cute little nose scrunch she did. But I didn't think of it as liking her, more just a randomly-formed friendship that I was glad to have.

Maybe it was this misinterpretation that didn't make me see how I was acting around her, such as the time I was in the dinner queue at lunch when I realised she was stood behind me.

"Oh, hey, Y/N," she said when she noticed it was me in front of her. Her usual bright, friendly smile was on her lips as she looked to me. "You good?"

I nodded, returning her smile. "Yeah. Just getting some doughnuts for Y/BF/N and I. You?"

"Same," she said, before nudging the guy next to her, who I recognised as her brother. "Pietro and I thought we'd treat ourselves."

At the mention of his name, Pietro looked down to his sister before his gaze fell on me. A mischievous smile appeared on his lips as he put out his hand.

"Pietro Maximoff," he introduced. "You must be the Chemistry partner, Y/N, right?"

I raised my eyebrows with surprise as I shook his hand. "You, er, know who I am?"

He glanced at his sister with a cheeky smile. Wanda was avoiding both of our gazes, her cheeks dusting pink.

Clearly saving face for Wanda, he said, "We've been in the same grade since kids, right? 'Course I do."

Despite the truth to his words, something told me that wasn't how he knew who I was. Especially since I was sure I'd never spoken to him in my life. But, to save Wanda the embarrassment of clearly having spoken of me at home, I nodded to Pietro.

"Right," I agreed with an amused smile. "Duh."

I moved down the queue and grabbed two doughnuts from the display, putting them in two separate paper bags.

"Dibs the last one!" Pietro exclaimed as soon as I returned the clippers to the display. He reached around his sister immaturely and bagged the last doughnut.

Wanda rolled her eyes. "You know I can ask for more, right?"

Pietro grinned, eyes sparkling with mischief. "Go on then."

The two were twins, but they couldn't have been more different. I simply revelled in their interaction, finding it adorable.

Wanda did as she said, asking the dinner lady if there were any more doughnuts in the back. Unfortunately for her, those were the last for the day, making Pietro laugh as Wanda pouted.

"Sucks to be you," he teased her, as I paid for mine and Y/BF/N's doughnuts.

"I hate you," she mumbled playfully, but I saw the disappointment in her eyes as he lovingly but annoyingly waved his bag before her eyes.

Without even thinking much of it, I held out one of the bags in my hand. "Here. You can have mine."

Wanda looked to me with surprise. "Are you sure? I can live without a doughnut, if that's what you're thinking."

I chuckled, grabbing her hand and making her take it. "It's okay. I wasn't in the mood anyway."

Plus, you look better when you're smiling and not pouting, I added in my head.

She accepted the bag reluctantly. "I– thanks. At least let me pay for it–"

"It's just a doughnut, Wanda," I teased, before nodding her way. "See you later."

Leaving her and Pietro to it, I headed back to the table Y/BF/N was sat at and took a seat opposite him before giving him his doughnut.

"Sweet," he said, quickly opening the bag before realising I didn't have one. "Where's yours?"

Over his shoulder, I saw Wanda and Pietro taking a seat at their lunch table, doughnuts in hand and a heartwarming smile on Wanda's lips.

"They ran out," I answered Y/BF/N. "Wasn't in the mood anyway. Enjoy."

He shrugged before digging in. I'd like to say I didn't spare glances in Wanda's direction every now and then for the rest of the lunch hour, but I'd be lying if I did.

—

I'm in the art department. You okay to bring it here?

I read over the text Wanda sent me before shooting her an 'okay' and heading to the Art department. I'd grabbed her notebook in class earlier on, only realising as I was studying with Y/BF/N in the library and pulled out an extra one, so I was going to give it her back.

I guess, when you realise you like someone, it comes randomly, suddenly, without warning. Liking someone isn't instant, it's constant and gradual and subconscious. I guess I'd been falling for Wanda for a while, without even realising, but today was the day I acknowledged that fact.

The Art department wasn't somewhere I frequented regularly – give me a paint and brushes and I'd probably present you with a finger painting – but it was definitely worth the visit. Art pieces from current and past students were hung on the walls, a mural of the school was spray painted on another, and sculptures stood around. The whole department brought a smile to anyone's face with its bright colours and open space – I could see why Art students always hung out here, Wanda included.

Speaking of Wanda, I found her in one of the classrooms sat at a stool in front of a series of canvasses. The room had a few other Art students littered around, working on their own pieces during their lunch period, otherwise it was empty.

"Hey," I called, getting her attention as I approached her.

She followed my voice and straightened up with a cheery smile. "Y/N, hey. Thanks for coming. I'm working on my Art project, so I couldn't pull myself away."

I waved my hand dismissively, joining her side. "It's all good, don't worry." My eyes wandered to the series of canvases on easels she was working on and widened. "Holy shit, these are so good."

Three unfinished hyperrealistic portraits of people were before us, one whom I recognised as Pietro. The paintings were so detailed, despite their medium-size, and I couldn't imagine how long they must have taken.

"You think?" she asked, glancing between them. "I think I messed up the nose here." She pointed with the back end of her paintbrush to the nose of Pietro. "It's a bit bent."

I almost laughed as I looked to her with disbelief. "Are you kidding? Wanda, these are amazing. How did you even do this?"

She looked down bashfully, a nervous smile on her lips. "I don't know. It's for a project. I chose to do family portraits." She pointed to each one as she said, "My mum, my dad and my brother."

I was in awe of her talent, jaw dropped with amazement still. I always knew she was an artist, but I'd never actually seen her work. I was starting to wish I'd come here a lot sooner.

"So, you got my notebook?" she asked, pulling me back into reality.

I looked away from the paintings reluctantly before getting her notebook from my bag and holding it out for her. As she accepted it, she must have forgotten she was holding her paintbrush as the tip brushed my wrist, leaving a swipe of red there.

"Oh, my bad," she said with a laugh, before setting her notebook and brush down and grabbing a paper towel from beside her.

Wetting it with water from her bottle, she pressed it to my wrist and swiped the paint away. It was such a mundane action, but the way her fingers gently held my wrist and emanated a warmth only she seemed to carry sent shivers down my spine.

I glanced up at her, letting her do it, and noticed the swipe of paint she had across her cheek, as if she'd touched her face without realising.

Now that I paid attention, I noticed how cute she looked in her Art getup. An old, oversized shirt covered in paint was being worn to cover her clothes, sleeves loosely rolled up to her elbows. Her long hair was tied back into a ponytail, but her baby hairs framed her forehead adorably.

When her hair wasn't in her face, her eyes only seemed more intense, glistening with excitement and happiness. I almost forgot to breathe when they met mine briefly, a hint of embarrassment there from when cleaning me up. She was in her element here and it made sense to me now.

I knew I'd fallen for her.

—

"You don't get it," I was saying to Y/BF/N as we hung about the school gym, waiting for the teacher to start the lesson. "It's bad. I like her. Like, like like her."

Y/BF/N laughed, clapping me on the back with pity. "You're screwed."

I frowned. "I know."

As he stretched for class, he continued, "I mean, I get it, I do. She's super nice. Pretty. And you guys seem to get on."

I chewed on my lower lip worriedly.

He gave me a knowing look. "There's one problem though."

I groaned, running a hand down my face. "I know, I know. She's got that dick of a boyfriend."

He chuckled. "That's one way to put it."

I sighed, crossing my arms with annoyance. Since realising I liked Wanda as a little more than a friend, things weren't going well for me. Whenever we worked together, I'd forget what I was thinking because I was too busy admiring her side profile or getting lost in her eyes. If she spoke about the work, told a joke or was simply speaking her thoughts aloud, I'd focus on every little thing she was saying, knowing I could listen to her speak all day. It was bad, but thankfully I hadn't stumbled over my words or made a total fool of myself in front of her. I was determined to not let it get that far.

My eyes wandered around the gym as Y/BF/N tried to give me advice, but admittedly, his words flew in one ear and out the other when I caught sight of Wanda.

She was standing with her friends, smiling and laughing to whatever they were saying. Like everyone else in here, she was wearing her gym kit – black athletic shorts and a blue and white tee shirt, the colour of our school. It wasn't anything special, yet she made it seem that way, outdoing anyone in here. Her brown hair was tied back, the ponytail falling down her back, showing her stunning profile and making my mouth go dry.

Another clap on the back from Y/BF/N pulled me from my reverie and I looked to see he was laughing at me.

"Majorly screwed," he corrected his previous comment.

He was definitely right.

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Hi slug! I'm quite new to your blog, but I couldn't help but be curious about the answer to doing your bachelor's in 2 years while working full time. It just blows my mind! As someone who is hardworking but stresses over stuff constantly, it really amazes me that you managed to do that. You said u are the exception to the rule of taking time off and all that, but I'm curious to know what your mindset is. Like, for me, I stress more about the idea of what I have to do and the result of what I'm doing, and I have a lot of anxious subconscious thoughts about not having enough time, or that I'm not doing as much as I could be doing (I've been dealing with some serious burnout for a while now too). I was wondering if you could explain how you approach your workload? Idk maybe this is too personal and abstract, but I'd love to know about your mindset.

🌸Anon

Hello, flower anon! I'll put this under another cut for length since I kind of rambled.

Sure, I don't mind talking about it. For starters, it's not that I don't take time off, but that I don't usually schedule full days off. I deal with anhedonia - the inability to feel pleasure from "fun" activities - pretty frequently, and because of that, it's often hard for me to find downtime activities enjoyable. However, I still get a little kick of satisfaction every time I finish a job, so I usually try to frame downtime activities in terms of tasks. For example, I might assign myself the task of reading a chapter in a favorite book or completing a quest in a video game. That way, even if anhedonia is kicking my ass, I'll still feel good about it when it's done. I try to picture my day as a constant string of activities, so when my energy is low, I'll give myself an easy, low-priority task. This could be something legitimately productive - folding laundry while listening to music, sorting files, alphabetizing books to be put away, reading background knowledge material for a translation job, etc - or a "fun" task like talking to a friend, reading a book, or playing a game.

In terms of work itself, I try to approach it as a structure that I can use to prop my life up with. I try to be careful to avoid workaholic thought patterns, since I've struggled with that before and ended up extremely distressed. Instead, I treat it as a low-stress, flexible grid with lots of little pieces whenever possible. I know hard deadlines stress me out, so I make guidelines for myself that can be shifted around if need be. (Granted, there are hard deadlines for certain things, such as job assignments, but I always set the guidelines to have them completed well before the employer appointed due date, giving me that wiggle room if I need it.) I also know that I don't usually do well when I try to do the same thing for hours on end or when approaching huge tasks, so instead I break things down into lots of small chunks and do a little each day. For instance, every day this week, I'll make sure that I do one or two things from each of the following task items:

Translation assignment 1

Translation assignment 2

Translation assignment 3

Japanese self-studying

Errand (could be grocery, getting meds, tutoring a student, whatever)

Personal chore (tidying my room, laundry, cooking for myself, washing my own dishes, etc)

Household chore (cleaning the floors, cleaning a bathroom, etc)

Exercise

Daily hygiene requirements

Hypmic (answering asks, TLing miscellaneous crap, cleaning up blog, etc.)

Fun/social (chatting with friend, reading, going out to get a cold drink or a snack, etc)

The order these things happen in and the time they take can totally vary from day to day depending on what particular needs I have and how much energy I have. Today it went like this:

Translation assignment 3 (5:30 am - 7:00)

Breakfast (7:00 - 7:15)

Translation assignment 1 (7:30 [I was talking with someone for a couple of minutes before I got back to work] - 11:00) This one went on for longer since I was editing a big chunk of text, but it doesn't always take this long. Again, it varies!

Run (11:00 am - 11:45 am)

Hygiene stuff + misc exercise (11:45 am - 12:15 pm)

Went out to get lunch and a caffeinated tea since I wanted to make sure I had enough energy for an appointment in the afternoon. Also read during lunch (12:15 pm - 1:00 pm)

Japanese self-study (1:00 pm - 2:00 pm)

Cancelled the appointment [long story] and instead worked on translation assignment 2 (2:00 pm - 4:00 pm). At the moment, I'm just doing reading for it, so I saved it for later in the day when I tend to be more tired. Also did laundry here since that's another easy task.

Went to the store to buy more cleaning supplies and other household crap (4:15 pm - 6:00 pm)

Made dinner and cleaned the kitchen (6:00 pm - 7:00 pm)

Translation assignment 2 (7:00 pm - 8:30 pm)

Answering asks and talking with friends (8:30 pm - 10:00 pm)

If you're counting the hours I spent working on job assignments themselves, this would be 8.5 hours which I think is somewhat longer than what's typical. But again, it's not sitting down for 8.5 hours straight because I struggle with that and don't like doing it. Instead, I break tasks up and move things around so I can accomplish enough that I feel fulfilled while still enjoying my time here. Also, even if that looks like just a little bit of each thing, at the end of the week I'll have:

Translated and edited between 40,000 - 50,000 Japanese characters

Completed 10+ chapters of textbook work for Japanese self-study

Kept on top of my household errands and chores

Ran between 1.5 - 2 hours

Managed my daily body upkeep

Probably called friends a couple of times, read all or most of a book, and played a few hours of a game

I do these kinds of things and approach things in this task-based mindset because it's what I've found works best for me. Since I know I struggle with a lot of basic things like executive function, feeling pleasure from downtime activities, speaking out loud, etc - I build systems for myself to let me live a happy, healthy lifestyle on my own terms. I don't think this sort of lifestyle is necessarily applicable to everyone, but it doesn't have to be. It's something I created within the definitions of my disability and my capabilities.

So with all that being said, I can't prescribe something that will magically apply to your life, but I highly encourage you to experiment to find things that work best for you. Obviously, when I was working full-time while in school, the tasks I had were usually much more important, but I still followed the same general format of treating each day as a series of small, movable tasks. Whatever frameworks you choose to create can apply to the busiest or the most relaxed of lives.

In your situation in particular, flower anon, I understand how you feel with those anxieties. If you're stressing over what you have to do and find it overwhelming on a daily basis, you probably need to find a way to reduce your workload. Chunking - the process of breaking big assignments into smaller tasks - tends to help with anxieties when assignments seem too large and unapproachable.

It's challenging to fight back against the thoughts that you could be doing more than what you're already doing. But at the core of it, isn't this a silly argument? Every minute of your life, you're doing something. You're working, or you're learning, or you're sleeping, or you're eating, or you're playing with your friends. How are you supposed to do more than that? What, are you supposed to pull a 25th hour of the day out of your ass? Value your time, especially the time you spend resting and taking care of yourself. It's good to enjoy resting, and it's good to enjoy working as well. These are all parts productive elements of life. When you sleep, you are producing a rested mind to give yourself a better day tomorrow. When you talk with your friends, you are producing happiness and fulfilling social needs for yourself and other people. Physically reminding yourself - I mean saying out loud, "I am being productive as I do x" or "Y is a valuable use of my time" - for every thing you do can help you mentally reinforce this concept. And what happens if you discover non-valuable uses of your time? Engaging in petty arguments that don't bring yourself or anyone else any value, spending time scrolling on your phone without enjoying it, taking a class or activity just because you feel like you should but not enjoying it or earning anything from it - then drop it from your life, because your time is much too precious for you to spend it unhappily and unproductively. Produce for yourself a better life whenever you can, as long as the definition of "better life" is one that you decide for yourself.

This is a very rambling, abstract answer, but I hope it is some help to you. Best of luck.

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